Finding friends online to be friends offline
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Does this actually ever happen?
First of all, this is not shenanigans, so we can cut down the 20-30 posts that claim it is. Secondly, I have friends in real life, but they're all lazy workaholics and I'm looking for someone to do outdoor activities with.
Anyway.
I thought there was a site called friend finder, but it turns out it doesn't exist. There's something called friendster, but you have to register and I don't know what it's about so I ignored that.
My first real choice was to go to craigslist. It would be nice if they had a "friend" section, but it just says platonic. As soon as you click it, it warns you that someone might be soliciting you for sex. Ugh.
So I click m4m. I've looked at a couple personals and they all seem really gay. By gay I mean, personals for super Christian guys, guys looking for workout partners and guys looking "discreetly" for new friends. Why would you be discreet when you're looking for friends, wtf?
Anyone have any luck with this? I'm looking for my version of Sidney from that movie "I love you, man."
That would be ideal. Thanks.
First of all, this is not shenanigans, so we can cut down the 20-30 posts that claim it is. Secondly, I have friends in real life, but they're all lazy workaholics and I'm looking for someone to do outdoor activities with.
Anyway.
I thought there was a site called friend finder, but it turns out it doesn't exist. There's something called friendster, but you have to register and I don't know what it's about so I ignored that.
My first real choice was to go to craigslist. It would be nice if they had a "friend" section, but it just says platonic. As soon as you click it, it warns you that someone might be soliciting you for sex. Ugh.
So I click m4m. I've looked at a couple personals and they all seem really gay. By gay I mean, personals for super Christian guys, guys looking for workout partners and guys looking "discreetly" for new friends. Why would you be discreet when you're looking for friends, wtf?
Anyone have any luck with this? I'm looking for my version of Sidney from that movie "I love you, man."
That would be ideal. Thanks.
Just bite the bullet and sign up for the prayer circle jerks.
Shenanigans. the preemptive denial proves it.
Generally, the Community section of Craigslist is better for that sort of thing, Subby.
Go to Meetup.com, find a local interest group that fits you.
Find something you specifically want to do then find an online forum for that sort of thing.
Then, profit.
Then, profit.
Go volunteer to meet cool people. Or hang out with people from work. In both those situations you're likely to meet people with similar values and interests.
Also you could vote Republican.
Also you could vote Republican.
impasse: Go to Meetup.com, find a local interest group that fits you.
Yeah that'd be my suggestion. There might be other sites for specific interests, i know i've met a couple of close friends through photography/modeling sites.
Yeah that'd be my suggestion. There might be other sites for specific interests, i know i've met a couple of close friends through photography/modeling sites.
Join a fraternity, like the Masons or the like. It is a great way to meet friends.
You could also volunteer at your local library or church if that's your thing (I will get chastised for this but if you are active in your church it is a good way to meet friends, not all churches are full of nuts).
You could also volunteer at your local library or church if that's your thing (I will get chastised for this but if you are active in your church it is a good way to meet friends, not all churches are full of nuts).
jed the humanoid: Haha. There is actually a Wikihow article about hot to make friends
There's also times when you need friends that are not hot
There's also times when you need friends that are not hot
elebrin: Join a fraternity, like the Masons or the like. It is a great way to meet friends.
You could also volunteer at your local library or church if that's your thing (I will get chastised for this but if you are active in your church it is a good way to meet friends, not all churches are full of nuts).
No, but their full of Christians.
;)
You could also volunteer at your local library or church if that's your thing (I will get chastised for this but if you are active in your church it is a good way to meet friends, not all churches are full of nuts).
No, but their full of Christians.
;)
pale_green_pants_with_nobody_inside_them: No, but their full of Christians.
;)
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The best way is to ask people to violate your virginity.
grahams: There's also times when you need friends that are not hot
jed the humanoid: The hell you say?!
Also, blame Superbowl being on a Sunday.
jed the humanoid: The hell you say?!
Also, blame Superbowl being on a Sunday.
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fail.
Yes they are full of Christians but if you are going to church of your own free will you probably are too.
fail.
Yes they are full of Christians but if you are going to church of your own free will you probably are too.
fatsean: Hey, we should hang out some time. Discreetly, of course.
I prefer my friends to be continuous.
I prefer my friends to be continuous.
elebrin: fail.
Yes they are full of Christians but if you are going to church of your own free will you probably are too.
Only probably. Sometimes when I do things of my own free will I have to force myself.
Yes they are full of Christians but if you are going to church of your own free will you probably are too.
Only probably. Sometimes when I do things of my own free will I have to force myself.
so vote republican: Only probably. Sometimes when I do things of my own free will I have to force myself.
Of all the nutcases on this site you are one of the strangest. Thanks for the entertainment.
Of all the nutcases on this site you are one of the strangest. Thanks for the entertainment.
so vote republican: Go volunteer to meet cool people. Or hang out with people from work. In both those situations you're likely to meet people with similar values and interests.
Also you could vote Republican.
Eh, in all fairness, a lot of offices are very small. We only have about 10 people in ours.
If I wasn't already off the market, I have no idea where I would meet girls. Probably like networking events and stuff. I'm guessing it's not like college where you just sort of look around and they're everywhere.
Also you could vote Republican.
Eh, in all fairness, a lot of offices are very small. We only have about 10 people in ours.
If I wasn't already off the market, I have no idea where I would meet girls. Probably like networking events and stuff. I'm guessing it's not like college where you just sort of look around and they're everywhere.
elebrin: Of all the nutcases on this site you are one of the strangest. Thanks for the entertainment.
You're welcome and thanks.
Wanna fuck?
You're welcome and thanks.
Wanna fuck?
so vote republican: Only probably. Sometimes when I do things of my own free will I have to force myself.
I have that problem with exercise.
I have that problem with exercise.
impasse: Go to Meetup.com, find a local interest group that fits you.
After meetup.com started charging event organizers for the thankless task of organizing events, most of us jumped ship to meetin.org.
After meetup.com started charging event organizers for the thankless task of organizing events, most of us jumped ship to meetin.org.
Good luck subby. Online might be a place to scout for upcoming events like lectures, live music events, book readings, farmer's markets, etc. that people with similar interests in your town might gather. Hell, if you like politics I would try the city hall meetings that are open to the public. I'd be a little wary of friend sites. People can represent themselves in all sorts of interesting ways that are true from a certain point of view.
I would also suggest talking to everyone in meatspace when you are at events or even at work. If you are introverted like me, take the anthropologist route. Get them to talk about themselves, eventually you will naturally join in and share.
My new office space is fairly isolated and I work alone (or at least until my advisor hires her 2nd postdoc). I go every Friday to the department talks and following beer. And I just talk to people - grads, postdocs and faculty - about their work, what they like best about my new town (which helps me plan future trips), and where they are from. I have made a couple of friends and several acquaintances in only 5 weeks. Believe it or not some academics like to do shit besides read boring papers on the weekend. :)
You can do this. Humans are social animals and even the shyest amongst us can make a friend or two. Just go out and storm the castle.
I would also suggest talking to everyone in meatspace when you are at events or even at work. If you are introverted like me, take the anthropologist route. Get them to talk about themselves, eventually you will naturally join in and share.
My new office space is fairly isolated and I work alone (or at least until my advisor hires her 2nd postdoc). I go every Friday to the department talks and following beer. And I just talk to people - grads, postdocs and faculty - about their work, what they like best about my new town (which helps me plan future trips), and where they are from. I have made a couple of friends and several acquaintances in only 5 weeks. Believe it or not some academics like to do shit besides read boring papers on the weekend. :)
You can do this. Humans are social animals and even the shyest amongst us can make a friend or two. Just go out and storm the castle.
meta: After meetup.com started charging event organizers for the thankless task of organizing events, most of us jumped ship to meetin.org.
Huh, haven't used Meetup.com in a while.
Huh, haven't used Meetup.com in a while.
jin verde: If you are introverted like me, take the anthropologist route.
Watch them and record observations on their mating habits, hang around until they accept you, then dart them and take some blood?
It does make an odd kind of sense...
Watch them and record observations on their mating habits, hang around until they accept you, then dart them and take some blood?
It does make an odd kind of sense...
Lazy workaholics? Does not compute, subby.
Ugh. I have friends who "define" me as a workaholic and then say that I "bail" on them. I'm sorry, but workaholics are NOT lazy and they do NOT "bail" on their friends. We work because we need to make a living, and we work HARD. It is not "bailing" unless you said you were going to go and then didn't because you decided you'd rather stay home or had something else to do. Having to cancel b/c you got called into work is NOT "bailing." Ugh. People need to be more understanding of their friends' work obligations. That is all.
Ugh. I have friends who "define" me as a workaholic and then say that I "bail" on them. I'm sorry, but workaholics are NOT lazy and they do NOT "bail" on their friends. We work because we need to make a living, and we work HARD. It is not "bailing" unless you said you were going to go and then didn't because you decided you'd rather stay home or had something else to do. Having to cancel b/c you got called into work is NOT "bailing." Ugh. People need to be more understanding of their friends' work obligations. That is all.
selectivedisclosure: Lazy workaholics? Does not compute, subby.
I interpreted it to mean "glued to desk chair, allergic to outside".
I interpreted it to mean "glued to desk chair, allergic to outside".
sabine: I interpreted it to mean "glued to desk chair, allergic to outside".
That's not "laziness". That's "I have to be glued to this desk chair even though I'd rather be outside or with my friends. But I got up at 5am, got dressed and got my ass to work because I need to put food on the table," not laziness.
That's not "laziness". That's "I have to be glued to this desk chair even though I'd rather be outside or with my friends. But I got up at 5am, got dressed and got my ass to work because I need to put food on the table," not laziness.
Go find a church and fake it.
selectivedisclosure: That's not "laziness".
OK. I just think TAI was using the word specifically in the context of "does not want to go mountain climbing with me", not in the overall sense of "gathering dust".
OK. I just think TAI was using the word specifically in the context of "does not want to go mountain climbing with me", not in the overall sense of "gathering dust".
sabine: OK. I just think TAI was using the word specifically in the context of "does not want to go mountain climbing with me", not in the overall sense of "gathering dust".
I agree, but it's still unfair to his friends. "Does not want to go mountain climbing" is not the same as "CAN'T go mountain climbing because I have to work."
I agree, but it's still unfair to his friends. "Does not want to go mountain climbing" is not the same as "CAN'T go mountain climbing because I have to work."
selectivedisclosure: I agree, but it's still unfair to his friends. "Does not want to go mountain climbing" is not the same as "CAN'T go mountain climbing because I have to work."
Jobs do tend to get in the way of playing.
That's why they call it work and not play.
Jobs do tend to get in the way of playing.
That's why they call it work and not play.
lady tabernash: Jobs do tend to get in the way of playing.
That's why they call it work and not play.
Yup. I guess subby's use of the term lazy got under my skin. Lazy is one of the last words I would use to describe workaholics.
That's why they call it work and not play.
Yup. I guess subby's use of the term lazy got under my skin. Lazy is one of the last words I would use to describe workaholics.
the anonymous instigator: Why would you be discreet when you're looking for friends, wtf?
Because they're married and "discreetly" want you to stick it in their pooper or vice versa.
Join a community kickball league. There are plenty of things like that that will (a) give you the outdoor activity you so desire and (b) will give you an opportunity to meet new people.
I do that kind of stuff every time I move, and every time I make new friends. Call your local YMCA or just google your city and "kickball/sport of choice leagues"
Because they're married and "discreetly" want you to stick it in their pooper or vice versa.
Join a community kickball league. There are plenty of things like that that will (a) give you the outdoor activity you so desire and (b) will give you an opportunity to meet new people.
I do that kind of stuff every time I move, and every time I make new friends. Call your local YMCA or just google your city and "kickball/sport of choice leagues"
selectivedisclosure: Yup. I guess subby's use of the term lazy got under my skin. Lazy is one of the last words I would use to describe workaholics.
Well, to be fair, some are lazy workers, I've had to deal with them.
Well, to be fair, some are lazy workers, I've had to deal with them.
selectivedisclosure: Yup. I guess subby's use of the term lazy got under my skin. Lazy is one of the last words I would use to describe workaholics.
Do you grind your teeth a lot?
Yeah, kinda random... I've been grinding the hell out of mine lately so it's on my mind, I figure a chronic workaholic must have little splintery chiclets remaining for teeth
Do you grind your teeth a lot?
Yeah, kinda random... I've been grinding the hell out of mine lately so it's on my mind, I figure a chronic workaholic must have little splintery chiclets remaining for teeth
tumescent: Do you grind your teeth a lot?
Yeah, kinda random... I've been grinding the hell out of mine lately so it's on my mind, I figure a chronic workaholic must have little splintery chiclets remaining for teeth
No, but I chew a shitload of gum to avoid eating the office snacks. I also recently quit smoking.
Yeah, kinda random... I've been grinding the hell out of mine lately so it's on my mind, I figure a chronic workaholic must have little splintery chiclets remaining for teeth
No, but I chew a shitload of gum to avoid eating the office snacks. I also recently quit smoking.
lady tabernash: Well, to be fair, some are lazy workers, I've had to deal with them.
Haha, true. My definition of workaholics does not include the lazy ones though! Those people are in at 8:30:00AM and out the door by 4:59:59PM. They're not eating the dinner my SO brings to my office and eats with me at 8:00PM.
Haha, true. My definition of workaholics does not include the lazy ones though! Those people are in at 8:30:00AM and out the door by 4:59:59PM. They're not eating the dinner my SO brings to my office and eats with me at 8:00PM.
selectivedisclosure: Haha, true. My definition of workaholics does not include the lazy ones though! Those people are in at 8:30:00AM and out the door by 4:59:59PM. They're not eating the dinner my SO brings to my office and eats with me at 8:00PM.
My daughters S/O (now hubby) knew she would be working and wouldn't eat while he was gone.
He called (from another state) and ordered a pizza delivered to her at work.
Is that too sweet or what.
/thumbs up on the no smoking
My daughters S/O (now hubby) knew she would be working and wouldn't eat while he was gone.
He called (from another state) and ordered a pizza delivered to her at work.
Is that too sweet or what.
/thumbs up on the no smoking
selectivedisclosure: No, but I chew a shitload of gum to avoid eating the office snacks. I also recently quit smoking.
I know Malcolm Gladwell gets a (probably deservedly) bad rap for sloppy research, but I was pretty fascinated by the stuff he had to say about ADD, dopamine, and smoking. I haven't looked any of it up to verify, but he says nicotine enhances dopamine (as do Adderall and some recreational drugs), that a large portion of the population historically ends up instinctively self-medicating for low dopamine levels without consciously realizing it--for a long time cigarettes were the most widespread method--and the reduced cultural acceptance of smoking is one reason adult ADD levels seem to have increased.
That got me thinking it also might have something to do with rising obesity levels, though I think he doesn't mention that.
Anyway, point being, if you gave up smoking recently, watch your dopamine (your level of motivation, focus, and general mood), it may become an issue. Best to approach it rationally rather than let it blindside you and ending up randomly looking for whatever is near at hand to help you cope.
I know Malcolm Gladwell gets a (probably deservedly) bad rap for sloppy research, but I was pretty fascinated by the stuff he had to say about ADD, dopamine, and smoking. I haven't looked any of it up to verify, but he says nicotine enhances dopamine (as do Adderall and some recreational drugs), that a large portion of the population historically ends up instinctively self-medicating for low dopamine levels without consciously realizing it--for a long time cigarettes were the most widespread method--and the reduced cultural acceptance of smoking is one reason adult ADD levels seem to have increased.
That got me thinking it also might have something to do with rising obesity levels, though I think he doesn't mention that.
Anyway, point being, if you gave up smoking recently, watch your dopamine (your level of motivation, focus, and general mood), it may become an issue. Best to approach it rationally rather than let it blindside you and ending up randomly looking for whatever is near at hand to help you cope.
lady tabernash: My daughters S/O (now hubby) knew she would be working and wouldn't eat while he was gone.
He called (from another state) and ordered a pizza delivered to her at work.
Is that too sweet or what.
/thumbs up on the no smoking
Aww that is so sweet! She's a lucky gal. Awww index = over 100
My SO does the same thing. I have a tendency to drop weight like crazy when I'm stressed b/c I just won't eat. He brings me dinner unsolicited on the nights I work late. It's always such a nice surprise. I could totally see him doing the same thing if he were out of town.
He called (from another state) and ordered a pizza delivered to her at work.
Is that too sweet or what.
/thumbs up on the no smoking
Aww that is so sweet! She's a lucky gal. Awww index = over 100
My SO does the same thing. I have a tendency to drop weight like crazy when I'm stressed b/c I just won't eat. He brings me dinner unsolicited on the nights I work late. It's always such a nice surprise. I could totally see him doing the same thing if he were out of town.
tumescent: I know Malcolm Gladwell gets a (probably deservedly) bad rap for sloppy research, but I was pretty fascinated by the stuff he had to say about ADD, dopamine, and smoking. I haven't looked any of it up to verify, but he says nicotine enhances dopamine (as do Adderall and some recreational drugs), that a large portion of the population historically ends up instinctively self-medicating for low dopamine levels without consciously realizing it--for a long time cigarettes were the most widespread method--and the reduced cultural acceptance of smoking is one reason adult ADD levels seem to have increased.
That got me thinking it also might have something to do with rising obesity levels, though I think he doesn't mention that.
Anyway, point being, if you gave up smoking recently, watch your dopamine (your level of motivation, focus, and general mood), it may become an issue. Best to approach it rationally rather than let it blindside you and ending up randomly looking for whatever is near at hand to help you cope.
You know what's crazy, I have noticed a difference in my level of motivation and focus and my general mood. Sucks. I wonder what the best solution to that would be?
I'm also eating less bc I'm terrified of the weight gain that accompanies quitting smoking. The hunger is also very distracting. I'm thinking of having a few bags of carrot sticks with me at all times. I just keep forgetting to grab 'em at the store.
That got me thinking it also might have something to do with rising obesity levels, though I think he doesn't mention that.
Anyway, point being, if you gave up smoking recently, watch your dopamine (your level of motivation, focus, and general mood), it may become an issue. Best to approach it rationally rather than let it blindside you and ending up randomly looking for whatever is near at hand to help you cope.
You know what's crazy, I have noticed a difference in my level of motivation and focus and my general mood. Sucks. I wonder what the best solution to that would be?
I'm also eating less bc I'm terrified of the weight gain that accompanies quitting smoking. The hunger is also very distracting. I'm thinking of having a few bags of carrot sticks with me at all times. I just keep forgetting to grab 'em at the store.
selectivedisclosure: You know what's crazy, I have noticed a difference in my level of motivation and focus and my general mood. Sucks. I wonder what the best solution to that would be?
I'm also eating less bc I'm terrified of the weight gain that accompanies quitting smoking. The hunger is also very distracting. I'm thinking of having a few bags of carrot sticks with me at all times. I just keep forgetting to grab 'em at the store.
I didn't gain weight quitting, I actually lost almost 60 lbs. Eat sensible, keep up the activities and don't start snacking. You really don't need to stop eating.
/never, never take 1 little puff ever, ever!
//gotta pick a day real soon and do it again :(
I'm also eating less bc I'm terrified of the weight gain that accompanies quitting smoking. The hunger is also very distracting. I'm thinking of having a few bags of carrot sticks with me at all times. I just keep forgetting to grab 'em at the store.
I didn't gain weight quitting, I actually lost almost 60 lbs. Eat sensible, keep up the activities and don't start snacking. You really don't need to stop eating.
/never, never take 1 little puff ever, ever!
//gotta pick a day real soon and do it again :(
lady tabernash: I didn't gain weight quitting, I actually lost almost 60 lbs. Eat sensible, keep up the activities and don't start snacking. You really don't need to stop eating.
/never, never take 1 little puff ever, ever!
//gotta pick a day real soon and do it again :(
Oh no! Do I understand that correctly that you picked up the habit again? It's so tempting, especially when drinking! I'm just short of the one-month mark so I'm still struggling! Curse those damn things! They're so fun and delicious!
/never, never take 1 little puff ever, ever!
//gotta pick a day real soon and do it again :(
Oh no! Do I understand that correctly that you picked up the habit again? It's so tempting, especially when drinking! I'm just short of the one-month mark so I'm still struggling! Curse those damn things! They're so fun and delicious!
jed the humanoid: Find something you specifically want to do then find an online forum for that sort of thing.
Then, profit.
I want to be a misogynist racist dickhead.
So who wants to grab a beer?
Then, profit.
I want to be a misogynist racist dickhead.
So who wants to grab a beer?
selectivedisclosure: Oh no! Do I understand that correctly that you picked up the habit again? It's so tempting, especially when drinking! I'm just short of the one-month mark so I'm still struggling! Curse those damn things! They're so fun and delicious!
I had quit drinking too.
After my husband died, I started drinking, then smoking, then....SEX.
I currently have all the vices I can handle. ;)
/my dad quit bout 20yrs ago and still gets a craving as strong as if it was yesterday. fortunately they don't happen very often
//You don't want to throw all those days away and start over at 1 for just a puff do ya?
I had quit drinking too.
After my husband died, I started drinking, then smoking, then....SEX.
I currently have all the vices I can handle. ;)
/my dad quit bout 20yrs ago and still gets a craving as strong as if it was yesterday. fortunately they don't happen very often
//You don't want to throw all those days away and start over at 1 for just a puff do ya?
5025: I want to be a misogynist racist dickhead.
So who wants to grab a beer?
No one, it is now cool to overreact to that shit. You bastard.
So who wants to grab a beer?
No one, it is now cool to overreact to that shit. You bastard.
selectivedisclosure: You know what's crazy, I have noticed a difference in my level of motivation and focus and my general mood. Sucks. I wonder what the best solution to that would be?
Here's an ask metafilter on it, though it's directed at a recovering opiate addict and doesn't have as many answers as I'd like, but it does cover the relevant diet/exercise/supplement basics that relate specifically to dopamine.
I'm surprised it doesn't mention meditation,since that's known to increase dopamine (ctrl-f for it), but it takes time (time during each day, and a lengthy period of committment) before you really start seeing results, which is hard if you're stressed, demotivated and busy in the first place, so it's not much use unless you're in a position to incorporate it as a lifestyle change, which is far from convenient.
This brief link lists off the same stuff as the AskMeFi page, but adds something potentially useful about social roles and leadership as related to dopamine production (though again, not something you can necessarily do if you have no time).
There are also the flat-out pharmaceutical fallbacks, wellbutrin/zyban (prescribed for this reason to help people stop smoking in the first place) or ADD stimulants. They work, but can have drawbacks and some people prefer to avoid them on principle (the cost, the idea of relying on medication).
Also, sex helps.
Here's an ask metafilter on it, though it's directed at a recovering opiate addict and doesn't have as many answers as I'd like, but it does cover the relevant diet/exercise/supplement basics that relate specifically to dopamine.
I'm surprised it doesn't mention meditation,since that's known to increase dopamine (ctrl-f for it), but it takes time (time during each day, and a lengthy period of committment) before you really start seeing results, which is hard if you're stressed, demotivated and busy in the first place, so it's not much use unless you're in a position to incorporate it as a lifestyle change, which is far from convenient.
This brief link lists off the same stuff as the AskMeFi page, but adds something potentially useful about social roles and leadership as related to dopamine production (though again, not something you can necessarily do if you have no time).
There are also the flat-out pharmaceutical fallbacks, wellbutrin/zyban (prescribed for this reason to help people stop smoking in the first place) or ADD stimulants. They work, but can have drawbacks and some people prefer to avoid them on principle (the cost, the idea of relying on medication).
Also, sex helps.
5025: I want to be a misogynist racist dickhead.
So who wants to grab a beer?
Speaking of which... during the Super Bowl I asked my GF if she wouldn't mind laying on her back with her head by the TV so I could watch the game while we did it.
Of course she complied. This girl is a keeper!
So who wants to grab a beer?
Speaking of which... during the Super Bowl I asked my GF if she wouldn't mind laying on her back with her head by the TV so I could watch the game while we did it.
Of course she complied. This girl is a keeper!
If you want someone to hang out with outdoors, wouldn't it make sense to go outdoors?
If you've got a dog, the dog park is a great place.
/I know there's a movie, but there are lot's of people there
//don't go during 'work' hours, they don't have a job either ;)
/I know there's a movie, but there are lot's of people there
//don't go during 'work' hours, they don't have a job either ;)
swingingjohnson: Speaking of which... during the Super Bowl I asked my GF if she wouldn't mind laying on her back with her head by the TV so I could watch the game while we did it.
Of course she complied. This girl is a keeper!
Of course she complied. This girl is a keeper!
tumescent: Here's an ask metafilter on it, though it's directed at a recovering opiate addict and doesn't have as many answers as I'd like, but it does cover the relevant diet/exercise/supplement basics that relate specifically to dopamine.
I'm surprised it doesn't mention meditation,since that's known to increase dopamine (ctrl-f for it), but it takes time (time during each day, and a lengthy period of committment) before you really start seeing results, which is hard if you're stressed, demotivated and busy in the first place, so it's not much use unless you're in a position to incorporate it as a lifestyle change, which is far from convenient.
This brief link lists off the same stuff as the AskMeFi page, but adds something potentially useful about social roles and leadership as related to dopamine production (though again, not something you can necessarily do if you have no time).
There are also the flat-out pharmaceutical fallbacks, wellbutrin/zyban (prescribed for this reason to help people stop smoking in the first place) or ADD stimulants. They work, but can have drawbacks and some people prefer to avoid them on principle (the cost, the idea of relying on medication).
Also, sex helps.
Wow! Thanks! I have some literature to read, obviously. I appreciate the links!
I was on Budeprion, an antidepressant prescribed when I quit, but holy shit did it make me stabby. I stopped taking it.
I was on ADHD meds, Dexedrine, but my doctor retired and the next psych I went to treated me like a drug addict. These stupid college kids are ruining it for the rest of us. I need some self-help remedies for sure. Gracias!
I'm surprised it doesn't mention meditation,since that's known to increase dopamine (ctrl-f for it), but it takes time (time during each day, and a lengthy period of committment) before you really start seeing results, which is hard if you're stressed, demotivated and busy in the first place, so it's not much use unless you're in a position to incorporate it as a lifestyle change, which is far from convenient.
This brief link lists off the same stuff as the AskMeFi page, but adds something potentially useful about social roles and leadership as related to dopamine production (though again, not something you can necessarily do if you have no time).
There are also the flat-out pharmaceutical fallbacks, wellbutrin/zyban (prescribed for this reason to help people stop smoking in the first place) or ADD stimulants. They work, but can have drawbacks and some people prefer to avoid them on principle (the cost, the idea of relying on medication).
Also, sex helps.
Wow! Thanks! I have some literature to read, obviously. I appreciate the links!
I was on Budeprion, an antidepressant prescribed when I quit, but holy shit did it make me stabby. I stopped taking it.
I was on ADHD meds, Dexedrine, but my doctor retired and the next psych I went to treated me like a drug addict. These stupid college kids are ruining it for the rest of us. I need some self-help remedies for sure. Gracias!
swingingjohnson: Speaking of which... during the Super Bowl I asked my GF if she wouldn't mind laying on her back with her head by the TV so I could watch the game while we did it.
Of course she complied. This girl is a keeper!
LMFAO. Awesome!
Of course she complied. This girl is a keeper!
LMFAO. Awesome!
cousin dupree: If you want someone to hang out with outdoors, wouldn't it make sense to go outdoors?
That's why I suggested joining a kickball league or something. Subby doesn't seem to be around??
That's why I suggested joining a kickball league or something. Subby doesn't seem to be around??
selectivedisclosure: You know what's crazy, I have noticed a difference in my level of motivation and focus and my general mood. Sucks. I wonder what the best solution to that would be?
Posting naked pictures.
Posting naked pictures.
so vote republican: Go volunteer to meet cool people. Or hang out with people from work. In both those situations you're likely to meet people with similar values and interests.
Also you could vote Republican.
^ This. Habitat for Humanity ftw.
Also you could vote Republican.
^ This. Habitat for Humanity ftw.
meta: Posting naked pictures.
From what I think one of the articles I found was saying, dopamine is about goal-seeking (like hunting), not just pleasure itself. Like cats endlessly chasing laser pointers: the seeking process, as much, or maybe more than, experiencing the capture.
So if I've got it right, then encouraging someone to post a striptease series, and thinking it might actually happen if you pursue it diligently (and having eager anticipation of the outcome), should actually be effective at stimulating dopamine production in the hunters/viewers.
I have no idea what it feels like to be on the other end of that experience though, so it might or might not also work for her, no clue.
From what I think one of the articles I found was saying, dopamine is about goal-seeking (like hunting), not just pleasure itself. Like cats endlessly chasing laser pointers: the seeking process, as much, or maybe more than, experiencing the capture.
So if I've got it right, then encouraging someone to post a striptease series, and thinking it might actually happen if you pursue it diligently (and having eager anticipation of the outcome), should actually be effective at stimulating dopamine production in the hunters/viewers.
I have no idea what it feels like to be on the other end of that experience though, so it might or might not also work for her, no clue.
Got nothin', subby. Try moving to a different state. That's what I did and now I suddenly have more friends than I have time. No idea where these people came from.
swingingjohnson: Speaking of which... during the Super Bowl I asked my GF if she wouldn't mind laying on her back with her head by the TV so I could watch the game while we did it.
Of course she complied. This girl is a keeper!
Did you eat caviar off her tits during halftime?
swingingjohnson: Speaking of which... during the Super Bowl I asked my GF if she wouldn't mind laying on her back with her head by the TV so I could watch the game while we did it.
Of course she complied. This girl is a keeper!
Did you eat caviar off her tits during halftime?
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